The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain. She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life. – Proverbs 31:11-12
Her husband is known in the gates when he sits among the elders of the land. –Proverbs 31:23
The heart of my husband cannot trust in me if he is afraid of the words that will proceed out of my mouth. By my actions and the words that proceed from my mouth (and out of my heart) I can bring him good and be his crown or I can bring him evil and be a millstone around his neck.
Today I read this quote by Matthew Henry. I think it sums up my husband’s approach to conflict perfectly.
"It is better by silence to yield to our brother, who is, or has been, or may be, our friend, than by angry speaking to yield to the devil, who has been, and is, and ever will be our sworn enemy." —Matthew Henry
Meekness does not mean I never speak, share an opinion, or disagree with my husband or others, but meekness acts under the grace and control of the Spirit of God. –Kimberly Wagner
To read more about what Kimberly has to say about meekness (much better than my little blurb) you will want to read her blog post Imperishable Beauty.